Loss can be hard to bear. David pours out his heart ad h grieves for Saul and Jonathan. Even though Saul had been difficult and at times antagonistic, David still offers up his grief over Sail’s death. David was very close to Jonathan, Saul’s son, and yet in this eulogy it sounds as if he loved them equally. In this sense it is a fairly common eulogy: it focuses on the positives of the deceased.
In our culture today the time immediately after the death seems to be the “acceptable” time to mourn. Once the funeral is over society gives the impression that it is time to move on. When sadness creeps back upon us at random times or because something reminded us of our loved one, we seek to find a private place so that we avoid the awkward or uncomfortable created by our sudden outpouring of emotions.
This is just the opposite of what it should be. God created us for community. In today’s writing from 2nd Samuel, David creates a shared way for the people to mourn. He acknowledges the sense of community that God calls us to so that we may find the strength and support we need. He calls us to be open and honest with our grief so that the healing process can lead us to a better place emotionally and spiritually. David names and admits his grief and sorrow. In doing so he offers others and us the permission to be open and honest with our emotions. In community we can find strength and support. There we offer it as well.
Scripture reference: 2 Samuel 1:1and 17-27